Finding the line between being a parent and infringing on their agency is hazy. My children know they have to put their clothes in their drawers after I have folded them. If I go in their room and see the neatly folded piles on the bed or, *gasp*, on the floor, do I instruct them to do it right or allow them to leave the clothes on the floor to become rumpled and dirty then let them live with the consequence? Is this an age/maturity issue?
When do I stop requiring my children to write "Thank You" notes and hope they feel enough gratitude to write them on their own?
When do I let go of their hands and let them skate solo? What if neither of us know whether they can skate without falling down?
Ohhh, this job is tricky.