Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Why Girls Need Dad

I watched a cute movie with my girls tonight.  It was called What a Girl Wants and is about, well not what Hollywood usually declares to be the thing a girl wants.  It is about a girl who wants her dad to be involved in her life.  It was refreshing to have a movie about how important a father is in the life of a daughter.  It got me thinking and I decided to write a list.

Things My Father Taught,
Things That My Mother Could Not:

  • A butter knife is not a screwdriver.
  • Sunblock expires.
  • If Dad believes you can do it, you can do it.
  • Just try it.
  • Figure it out.
  • If you're going to do something, do it all the way.
  • Kicking the tires is not a good way to determine the quality of any wheeled thing.
  • Camping in the snow can be fun.
  • Work first, then play.
  • Power tools are tools, not toys (even though they are fun).
  • A motor will get you there fast, but a sail is so much better.
  • There are good men in this world.
  • It was worth waiting to find one.
  • I don't care if you're on vacation, never waste time being lazy.
  • An unheralded example is still an example.  
  • It's okay to try something later in life than most people try that thing.
  • Your blaming the children for not putting away your tools only goes so far.  Someday the real culprit will be made known. 
  • If you have valuable skills, share them.  Your neighbor has no idea how to fix that leak.
  • The relationship with your spouse is more important than any other in the world.
  • Biscuits with sausage gravy are best at a truck stop.
  • Who cares if it bothers your children.  Walk around the house in your underwear if you want.  Someday the kids will laugh at your "idiosyncrasies." 
  • Sing loud.
  • Do not sit on your hind quarters when you are working.  Even if you are working hard, it looks like you're slacking.
  • How it feels to dance with a man who knows how to lead.
  • Sometimes being together and not talking can be more satisfying than a bunch of jabber.
  • You can never have too much firewood.
  • How to hold a flashlight on the task at hand.
  • Use the assembly instructions.
  • Be ambitious in your educational goals.  No knowledge is a waste.
  • There are good men in whom you can put your trust.
  • A righteous man gets to regularly participate in miracles.
  • You can make someone crazy by talking about the same thing over and over and over again.  Just buy it, already!
  • Louis L'Amour, John Wayne (westerns in general), and Captain Kirk.
  • Your dad wasn't joking when he bought you the pepper spray.  He wants you to be ready to use it.
  • You do have to check the fluids in your car and pressure in the tires.  There isn't a fairy that comes every Saturday morning to do that for you.
  • A daddy loves his girls.
  • He wants them close to him, even though he pretends it's all about the grandchildren.

There is more that I learned from my parents, of course, but this list is dad specific.  I love my dad and am so thankful he's still around.  What a blessed woman to have grown up in his home.

What did your dad teach you?  Why do you think girls need their dads around?


  1. Why is it that some of our best thinking comes after midnight? Enjoyed this one.

  2. I love your list. Dads that stay; dads that are present in daily life... Oh God bless them.

    I love the scent of dads-- well at least mine and yours. Mmm, what a 'secure' smell, what a 'safe' smell, what a 'love' smell. Betcha didn't know those qualitites had a scent. Well they do, and it smells like DAD.

  3. What I learned just from my Dad and not my Mom:

    "if you sing at the table you'll cry before bedtime"

    Children are to be seen and not heard (I don't agree)

    Plant garlic in the fall

    How to be supportive to a spouse

    How to buck hay bails

    How to cut down and cut up a tree for firewood

    How to de-feather a chicken

    to sing silly songs to make children laugh

    read the newspaper and watch the news

    be involved in politics

    take simple steps of faith

    how to fulfill a calling at church

    oh my this has been so hard...sadly it has taken me FOREVER to come up with these- I have learned a lot of what NOT to do from my Dad- bless his heart. Great guy but was super rough around the edges when we were little and still is from time to time. I have learned to read through his words and translate them into what his heart really feels for his kids and family-

  4. oh here are a few more

    how to change irrigation pipes

    how to paint a room

    how to ride a motorcycle

    to strike up a conversation with strangers and become life-long friends within 5 minutes

    it's ok to wear swear pants to the grocery store

    eat the whole apple besides the stem

    quality is more important than quanity

    "you get what you pay for"

    fresh alfalfa can kill a cow if it eats too much

  5. I meant sweat pants- but swear pants is actually quite fitting.

    I am known to do a few "damn its and shits from every now and then-Dad had a runaway mouth and a temper- yes, learned it from Dad.